I am a child of divorce so I have a lot of step in my family. But personally, I don’t like using the word step.
I think most of us would say that we prefer to have control over what happens in our lives and our kids’ lives. I think the thing that is hardest for me is the lack of control that step-parents and parents in any divorced household have.
My husband and I are on a vacation in Utah and we thought it would be fun to go hiking with one of my childhood friends and her husband. We picked a hike that we’d done before and had thoroughly enjoyed. So why am I writing about this? It all went fine, right?
Making these covenants is a big deal, a huge step on the path to living the life that Heavenly Father wants us to. But, on the flip side, once you do – you can’t deny that you weren’t made aware of what was expected of you. One of these things is to repent of your sins – and this isn’t just a one-time thing, you repent throughout your life
So now, I try to not voice those comments when she’s around but really I shouldn’t be talking so negatively about myself at all. It’s a struggle, which I’m sure you’re all familiar with. But how do I change the way I see my body? Honestly, I don’t know. This is not a blog post with all the answers.
The nerves are what I remember, how anxiety rioted through my stomach as I drove the twenty-minute drive to church. I was living in a different part of town than where I grew up, so I had to go to a completely different building. Lucky for me, most LDS churches are set up relatively the same.
I went to a Young Single Adults (YSA) ward in Portland and was promptly greeted by some bright-eyed missionaries when I walked into the chapel.
It wasn’t until a year or so later that I allowed myself to be completely honest about what I wanted. I ended the very unhealthy relationship I was in and found myself on my own for the first time – really ever. It was then that I realized what was missing from my life.
It was God.
I’m all about self-care. I’ve been about self-care for a long time now. Self-care means a lot of different things to me but the effect of it is always the same. I’m a little less grumpy, a little less tense and a lot nicer to be around.
If you follow me on Instagram, you know that I recently got hitched! I’m an official step-mom now and it’s been different than I thought it would be – in good ways and some not so good ways.
I consider myself lucky to have a step mom. She came into my life when I was eleven or twelve and I didnt feel grateful for her at first. But I grew to see that she loved me like I was her own, worked hard to help me achieve what I needed to and was always there for me. She wasn’t ever trying to replace my mom but she was an extra mom. A bonus mom.